Anonymous asked: THANKYOU sooooooo much. Your advice was ledgendary. It helped so much. I spoke to him and he said he was just really nervous and he regrets how things ended last time. He also said that he will not let it be that way this time. Again THANKYOU so much. Tons of love Lucy. Xxxxxx
I’m very happy for both of you! I’m glad that you’ve finally settled things. Remember talking and trying to understand each other is the main key to solve any problems in a relationship. And please, don’t hesitate to send me a message if you need someone to talk to, or vent to or ask for advice. My ask box would always be open.
I sincerely thank you for also letting me know that everything turned out well. I wish your relationship all the best, enjoy life my dear.
Anonymous asked: Heey. I adore your blog. I have a small dilemma. I'm in year 9 and my boyfriend and I have only been dating a few weeks but we previously dated for about 3 months a year ago. The reason we broke up was because he never spoke to me! Well hardly ever. And when he did it was quite awkward. Now I am just scared that it will end up that way again. I really like him and I don't want it to fall apart like it did last time. Please help me I am just so worried and confused. Lots of love Lucy. Xxx
Thank you for sending a message!
First of all, it would be quite hard for me to assume things from the lack of information provided (which I totally understand, I wouldn’t want to give a lot of information out about me in the internet as well, specially something so personal), so I would just like for you to focus on this one thing that I am going to say;
Communication is the most important foundation of a relationship.
There could be a lot of reasons why for those three months a year ago, your boyfriend did not talk to you. But I want you to remember that talking is not a one-way but a two-way communication.
So he doesn’t talk to you, but have you tried of talking to him about it? Have you asked him why? I want you to understand that in a relationship, talking is a very important aspect; more so is understanding. I think you need to understand first why he didn’t talk to you for that past relationship you had with him a year ago, you need to know his reasons why so you would stop being scared. You need to tell him and be honest to him about what you feel, about your inhibitions and your fears so that he can be honest with you too. Things only get awkward in a relationship if there’s no more comfort (and i personally believe that one of the many things a relationship thrives on is being comfortable with your partner); I think when you are in a relationship, one of the most important things is that you feel comfortable being with that person, and that you can talk about anything and everything with them.
So talk to him, it’s okay to ask. He’s in this relationship too, he owes it to you to answer. Being in a committed relationship isn’t just about having someone to call your boyfriend or girlfriend. Being in a relationship is having someone you completely trust and can be comfortable with.
I hope this helps you in one way or another, and I sincerely wish for your relationship this time to be successful. Thank you again for dropping a message!
AAAAAAAAAAND SHE’S BACK LADIES AND GENTLEMEN. I apologize for the
long absence. Life gets in the way, but yes. I shall be posting daily again. (Hopefully)
Well yus, anyway. For now, I hope y’all are having a great summer! <3
onetwothreeshit asked: hey there, I need some advices regarding this girl I like and I hope you can please help me.. she already knows that I like her and uhm.. well, she's the type of girl that thinks maturely she just turned 18 and she's humble, she never had a boyfriend, she knows that I like her, she's rich but she's humble, she's smart, she's bright, she's the type of girl who deserves everything best, she doesn't smoke, she doesn't drink.. well, she's not the prettiest but i do like her for her personality..
Hello rainier, I’m very flattered that someone had finally asked for advice. I’m happy for you, you are very lucky to find a girl like her. A few things interested me though. If she’s never had a boyfriend in her 18 years of life, there may be something wrong. She might be afraid of commitments, or getting hurt, or insecure about herself. Your job right now is to make her feel exactly the opposite of those. I can go for a more cliched line such as “be yourself” but that’s not enough, I would say be the guy who would be worth her trust, her love and her commitment. The best thing you can do right now is plow on slowly, even though she knows you like her already, you can’t simply push yourself to her. Offer yourself slowly, make her feel appreciated, instead of asking her to trust you; show that you are trustworthy. Commit to your promises, eventually you will win her heart if you really put your mind and commitment to it.
But these, everything that I’ve said wouldn’t do much good if you haven’t asked this yourself; you tell me that she has all of these good traits, smart, mature, rich but humble— but is she worth pursuing, worth all the effort you would put through, worth all the risk— that maybe in the end you wouldn’t succeed too?
Please ask yourself, if she is worth it, then on you go. :)
PS. If you wish for me to answer privately, do include in your question next time. Good luck!